There are times in our lives when we are just waiting for things to happen. We desperately want change and to move on but for some reason we cannot. A type of "stuckness" is experienced which leads to impatience, frustration and self-doubt. Unfortunately, when we maintain a strong focus on what we don't have, we actually attract more of it! Even if we do positive thinking about what we do want, we are still coming from a place of fear, lack and desperation. We can waste a lot of time and effort clutching at straws, going over things, and repeatedly trying. Oddly enough trying harder doesn't work.
How do we get out of this?
1. Take your mind right away from what you want. Trust that it is coming and there is nothing more you have to do. Relax and let go. I mean really let go: do something else, forget about it, give yourself some time off. Do some voluntary work, help a friend out, go for a hike, make or build something. Focus on what you are creating or giving.
2. Take a few minutes a day to appreciate what you do have. A roof over your head, food in the fridge, good health, friends, family, what is in your bank account and your skills. Its more than just a list, get into the feeling of gratitude for even the smallest of things in your life. I remember a time when I had very few clients and was worried about it. So I started appreciating all the people who had ever come to me and giving thanks for all the ones booked in or yet to come. I let myself get really grateful and happy about how much I enjoyed my work. Much to my surprise I had two more bookings come in within an hour of doing this exercise.
3. Appreciate every time you see someone who appears to be successful, happy, healthy and wealthy. Start noticing the people who are doing well and be inspired by them. Its like buying a new car - you may have never noticed it on the road before but now they are everywhere!
4. Celebrate any good thing that comes your way. Tell your friends about it. It could be a tv programme that makes you feel good and inspires your life purpose, someone who calls you with good news or something you read. This is your GPS keeping you on track and the more your celebrate it the more it comes to you.
So look at where you are going, rather than at what you don't want. Lift your attitude with gratitude.
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Elayne Lane is an instructor of the Universal Healing Tao. She has been teaching and doing bodywork in excess of 20 years.