Take time out for yourself
This one day workshop on Saturday the 20th October focuses on pampering you!
The workshop covers:
* The gentle stretches to release physical tension
* The Inner Smile Meditation
* The Microcosmic Orbit
* The 6 Healing Sounds
* Restorative Chi kung.
There may be some women who cannot do a long day due to family commitments, so there are two options for the course:-
a) 9 am - 5 p.m. with a shared lunch $100 (you won't get to do the Restorative Chi Kung/Six Healing Sounds in the evening)
b) 9 am - 9 pm with shared lunch and dinner $150 which includes the Restorative Chi Kung and Six Healing Sounds.
If you book 1 week in advance you can take $25 off the price and if you bring an extra full paying person you can take a further $25 off the price.
Date: Saturday the 20th October 2018
Venue: Nelson (address to be advised)
Bring: Comfortable clothes and food for shared meals
Take a look at my courses coming up over the next few months....
Do you feel like your batteries are running low? Would you like to have more energy?
We think we get our energy from just our food. However have you noticed how much more energised you feel when you have been walking in nature? It feels good, doesn't it?
The Chinese say that we receive our energy through the following routes:
Lets look at each one of these for a few minutes....
When I talk about enjoying nature, I mean really enjoying it. It is no good walking through a park and thinking about your grocery list - you are not really there. It works when you really participate with and enjoy the nature around you, like a good walk on the beach with a sea breeze and waves crashing on the shore.
Did you know that you can increase your energy levels by eating your food slowly? Paul McKenna says in his book "I Can Make you Thin" place the food in your mouth, put your knife and fork down, taste the food, chew it 20 times, swallow and then take the next piece of food. You will find that a) you eat less food and b) you will have more energy. Try it and find out for yourself.
Breathing... stop a moment and notice how you are breathing. Are you breathing in your upper chest, or do you breathe deep breaths right down to your belly? Oxygen gives us energy. Take a few minutes to breathe deeply and notice the difference in your energy levels - you will feel more relaxed too.
Opening your energy system through chi kung. Wikepedia gives this definition of chi kung: "Qigong, qi gong, chi kung, or chi gung is a holistic system of coordinated body posture and movement, breathing, and meditation used in the belief that it promotes health, spirituality, and martial arts training". Tai chi is a form of chi kung and so are the martial arts - you remember the Karate Kid movie? There are many forms and schools of chi kung, so you can choose from something very easy, to a full on exercise programme (although its much more than that!).
If you are a woman, would you like to experience Restorative Chi Kung with me on Tuesday nights starting the 12th June? I am running some beginners classes in my home for four weeks. You can recharge your batteries without a hard workout and learn about your unique energy system.
Click here for more information.
Its natural to eat when we are hungry and stop when we feel satisfied. And its not rocket science to know that if we take in more calories than we need each day, we will gain weight. However, we still go against our body's natural signals in the following ways….
1. Many of us have been trained to eat everything on our plates – even if we are full
2. We eat in a hurry so we can get back to work
3. Our internal thermostat, which lets us know we are full, is overridden and eventually gets de-sensitised
4. We stand at the kitchen sink and eat
5. We multi-task when we eat and when we have distractions (tv, internet) we don't notice what we eat, or how much we are eating
6. We have forgotten what “full” feels like.
Being full means “I am satisfied – that’s enough food for now”.
Our stomach can tell us when we are full and we can respond to its signals. The way to do this is to remove all distractions, clear the table, sit down, slow down and focus on eating our meal. When we are full there is a gentle, clear, satisfied sensation in the solar plexus area. It tells us to stop eating now!
You will notice that once you are full, each subsequent bite is a little less enjoyable than the one before. Pay attention and it becomes obvious. This is why conscious slow eating is so important. Slow down.
Your solar plexus area gets more and more uncomfortable once you are full - put your food to one side and wait 15-30 minutes. If still you feel hungry then, eat again.
Here’s the food scale:
1 I couldn’t fit another thing in
5 Comfortable and contented
7 Slightly hungry
9 The hoover
10 I am going to pass out
If we listen, the body can tell us what to eat and how much - its natural after all! By paying attention, we can easily recognise when we are full and stop eating.
Elayne teaches Weight Loss classes. Her next course on the 6th May Click here.
Its not what we eat… its why we eat.
Did you know that when we have an emotion we don’t want to feel, if we eat food it can make this feeling temporarily go away? Two things happen when we feel lonely, trapped, overwhelmed, ashamed, resentful or bored.
1. We feel these uncomfortable feelings in our solar plexus area which is right beside our stomach. When we overeat the stomach expands and puts pressure on this area – temporarily blocking these feelings.
2. When hoover our food up (eat a lot of food fast) we get a chemical “high” which makes us feel better.
Unfortunately this chemical high doesn’t last long so we need to eat more to keep the uncomfortable feeling away. The good news is that there are lots of amazing techniques for uncovering those difficult to be with feelings and changing them into a motivating force in your life.
One of those techniques comes from Paul McKenna’s book “I can make you Thin” and it's called The 5 Questions. Im going to quote from his book:
"I am sitting in a café and a bus stops outside. The engine keeps running and it’s loud. I feel annoyed. I ask the five questions:
1. What is the trigger? The emotion is a response to the noise.
2. What is the belief or judgement? I believe the noise is unpleasant.
3. What is my need? I have a need for a level of quietness to concentrate on my writing.
4. What is the positive intention behind this emotion? The positive intention of the annoyance is to re-establish the level of quietness I desire.
5. What is the first practical action I can take? I can move to another café – or I could ask the bus driver to turn off his engine."
Through the five questions you can unfold what the emotion is trying to tell you and find some solutions that bring you back to a place of equilibrium again.
To learn how to work with your feelings so that they don't control your eating - why not come to my Weight Loss Course on the 6th May? Click here.
Do you ever wake up in the morning feeling low?
Are you always struggling with your mind to get into a positive state?
Our minds can be pretty funky places at times.... And it if occurs often enough (we feel flat every day), it can become a habit. When we feel low, everything feels bad. Our body tends to have more pain and tension, our diet deteriorates, the day at work seems harder, the verbal dialogue goes around and round, we beat ourselves up and stop being fun to be around.
The trick to changing this is to change our thinking. (After all it is the one thing we do have control over).
We all get a bit flat at times, and I am no exception. One morning I got the idea to rev up through using affirmations (this has always worked for me in the past), so I took a look on internet to find some fresh ideas. I came across a talk by Abraham Hicks on called "The Easiest Way to Start Positive Momentum". It was a great talk, and I want to summarise it for you in this blog.
Esther Hicks and Louise Hay both say that using affirmations help shift our mental state and reality, but unless we get into a positive feeling state, affirmations do not work. Let me give you an example. You own a heater. You know it gives you warmth. But it only works when you turn the power on. Likewise with affirmations, they only work when we have a strong positive emotional feeling behind them. The emotional power literally turns the affirmations on.
So if you wake up and invest emotional energy into self talk about how flat you feel, that is what you will get - a bad day. If you wake up and invest your energy is a "rev up" pep talk with positive emotional energy behind it, then your day will be much better.
The easiest way to do this is to make yourself a recording of your affirmations when you are in a good mood and play it to yourself first thing in the morning. Leave enough space between each affirmation to repeat it, and remember to get into the feeling - like you already have it. BE excited!
I have one below which you can download.
Abraham Hicks says best way to start your 'rev up talk" is with something general.
What do you appreciate right now? Think of all the things that are easy to appreciate.
Think generally: your body, your home, your comfy warm bed, food in your cupboards, a hot shower...
Then go out into the community: people at the bank, your friends, the library service, the supermarket...
Then globally: the electricity to your house, the roads...
Take a moment to appreciate the wellbeing of the people around you. People who inspire you.
You could compare yourself with all the people who live in other places, and appreciate where you live and what you are accomplishing right now
GOOD VIBES ATTRACT GOOD VIBES
When you can put a good, excited, happy, uplifting feeling into your words/appreciation, this puts power into them. Often we let our good feeling go, and slump back down to apathy. So set an alarm in your phone a couple of times a day to remind you to lift your vibe again.
Abraham Hicks says the next step is to receive what comes your way. Allow yourself to go with the flow. Let your positive vibes carry you along throughout your day. We all know how good it is to be around someone who has these vibes. You can be like that too. People sense this - they will want to help and support you.
It takes commitment to keep picking yourself up and getting into a positive vibe. But ask yourself: which mouth do you want to feed? The happy one or the sad one?
One day is not enough to break a habit, but one week can start showing you some positive results. It takes about 28 days to change a habit, and probably 3 months to have it embedded into your system Practice pays off!
If you would like a recording to use to rev up your day: click here and download it to your ipod/mp3 player.
Take a moment to listen to your thoughts about yourself.
How you feel about your body?
Your state of health?
Do you like the way you look?
Many people would say:
I am too fat, too thin, too short, dumpy, stupid.... and so it goes on.
This week I saw a three minute video about a woman who hated her body. It struck a chord with me... I realised that I quite often verbally beat myself up! I want to share this video with you - it's about a woman who chose to look differently about her body. Click here to look at this video (it is a promotional video but the message is well worth hearing).
So often when I work with people, I get a sense that they don't like their body, or the part that is hurting them. For some it is their hormonal system because they can't conceive a baby, or it makes them moody, or menopausal. For others it is their "pain in the neck" or "pain in their butt". I have noticed there is a kind of tension that sits in the body, and it appears when we go on a negative self talk rampage. Many a client will tell you that during a session I have asked them to breathe deeply and SMILE into their body. To appreciate it - after all the body still keeps working, even if we have a poor diet, bad posture, don't move enough, laugh enough, play enough.
This is the analogy I give to my clients about our self talk:
Let us pretend you work in a factory. You have been there a long time and some of the machinery is a bit unpredictable, which affects your output.
Boss A comes in. This person is always grumpy with you, telling you what is wrong, making you feel useless, picking holes in you, yelling sometimes. How do you feel? Do you shrink down? Do you dread Boss A? Would you grumble and complain outside of work? Would you even want to go to work? And if you had a good idea about how to make things better, would you tell this Boss? Probably not.
Boss B comes in. This person really likes you. They praise you for your work, despite the difficult circumstances you are working in. They tell you what they appreciate about you, admire you. How do you feel now? Stand up tall? Feel proud and appreciated? Do you look forward to showing up at work? Would you be willing to share with this Boss any of your good ideas for improvement? Yes, because they are likely to be well received.
I believe it is like this with our body. When we berate it, it shrinks, constricts and gets tense. When we love and appreciate it, it softens, relaxes, gives us feedback, and tells us what it wants.
Every cell in the body is connected. If I were to stamp hard on your toe, every part of your body would know about it, right? So it only stands to reason that when we are internally beating ourselves up, the body responds.
I have noticed that when I really care and speak highly about my body to my body, a type of new wiring happens. I get ideas how to look after it, I make different choices about my health and activities.
How do we love our bodies?:
1. Talk to it in a loving/caring manner (even if it hurts)
2. Ask it to tell you what it needs and imagine getting wired up - painful body part to the brain - so that the information/inspiration can come to you on how to help it
3. To consciously do caring things for your body... have a bath, do a relaxation exercise, take a walk, have a nourishing meal.
To download a FREE audio on the Inner Smile Visualisation click here.
Click here for my Women's Rejuvenation Chi Kung Class this Saturday.
These weekly classes are designed specifically with women in mind. Benefits are:
They are relaxing
Opens your heart
Make you laugh
Tones the pelvic floor
Gives you inner strength
Healthy menstrual cycles
Gives you extra energy
Improves lymphatic flow in the breast tissue
Balances the emotions
Warm up – gentle exercises to get your energy flowing and loosen the joints
Swimming dragon – good for the waist, lower back and the movement massages the organs
Lower abdomen pull up – massaging your lower abdomen for good reproductive health
Toning the perineum – for bladder control and strong pelvic floor
Breast and ovarian massage – healthy breasts, ovaries, womb and hormones
Microcosmic orbit – revitalise yourself
The Inner smile - smile within and your body will smile back at you!
The Six Healing sounds – balancing your emotions and promotes sleep
Energy bath – revitalise your skin, a natural beauty treatment.
When: Every Thursday night 7th August - 11th September (six weeks)
Where: Tahunanui Primary School, Main Hall, Muritai Street, Tahunanui, Nelson (map below)
Time: 6.45 - 8.15 p.m.
Cost: $60 payable on the first night
Note: The course runs subject to numbers (minimum 10 people)
“This amazing wisdom is wonderfully taught by Elayne! When I arrived to class I felt tired and looked like a wilted flower......my energy changed noticeably from the exercises....such a gift! I am learning how to nurture myself! Thank you Elayne for sharing”. A.M.
“Thanks so much for giving us your time last night, I am really enjoying my Thursday nights. You are teaching really cool
stuff. It should be compulsory for all women”. D.A.
“For the last four weeks I have been going to Elayne Lane's Chi Kung classes for women. Thought I would post the changes I
have noticed in myself over that time, just to give an insight to any reader who might be interested in attending as to how profound this work can be. Benefits I have noticed and be sure there will be things that I have not consciously noticed yet... Sleeping extremely well, less frustration, more calm, improved eyesight, my shoulder blade which was sticking out has moved closer to its natural position, more energy and motivation, hydration has improved and visits to the WC in the night have become less frequent...in just 4 weeks!”. C.F.
Women's Pamper Weekend with Restorative Chi Kung, Massage and Spa at Kimi Ora, Kaiteriteri, Nelson 9-11 October
Thank you for a fantastic weekend Elayne. Just what I needed and in such a beautiful location with fabulous women!
Venue was great for the soul .... beautiful, peaceful and uplifting with great facilities and accommodation.
Great group of woman ... lots of fun and laughter. Learned heaps but enjoyed the light hearted approach. Fantastic food made with lots of love. Massage experience to die for. Venue great for the soul.
The teaching was clear and easy to follow - the circle allowing good viewing for following the moves.
Thank you for organizing a fabulous weekend- lovely company, great food and a wonderful introduction to women's Qi Gong.
Elayne's Pamper Weekend was relaxing, enjoyable and educational. It was so lovely to be in the company of conscious, fun loving women. I feel like I have a new circle of friends. I had tried learning women's Qi Gong from a book before and it felt very disciplined and difficult to figure out if I was doing the exercises correctly. I find Elayne's teaching style easy to pick up, clear and enjoyable, she adds a delightful joy to learning. I would recommend this retreat to anyone wanting to meet open minded people, refresh and rejuvenate themselves and enjoy good food and good company in a beautiful setting.
I would thoroughly recommend this amazing woman's pamper weekend. You will not be disappointed with the richness of the teaching the energy and the knowledge that Elayne shares with kindness, and her joy for life that will touch and inspire you. I can't wait for the next one!
Everything was wonderful - communicating with nature, our being, your essence and all the wonderful energy from other wonderful women. Running in nature, the bird life, early morning swims, sauna's and spa's with conversations full of fun and laughter and making new friends xc Being inspired by JOY!
Spring is a time of new growth and regeneration. In traditional chinese medicine spring is related to the Wood element: everything warms up, grows, multiplies and expands. It becomes easier to get up early in the morning, or to start planting the garden, spring cleaning our houses and start exercising again. It’s natural to feel this rise of energy bubbling up through our bodies – even our sexual energy gets turned on!
Here’s 3 ways to kick-start your spring.
1. Spring clean!
The Wood element is related to the liver, gallbladder, eyes, nervous system and brain. The liver’s role in our body is to metabolise the chemicals we take into our bodies via food and drink, and then to eliminate them. When our liver is over-burdened with toxins (emotional or chemical) it’s common to get cranky, over-think and also to lose sleep! For women it
particularly affects our hormonal balance.
In springtime our liver and gall bladder have extra energy, making this the best time of the year to cleanse the liver. You could begin by using a liver cleansing diet. Alternatively you could start a liver cleanse by taking some bitter herbs (please get advice first from your natural health professional/herbalist/naturopath or health food shop). A good cleanse should be gentle and slow over a period of 6 weeks to 3 months. Avoid or limit alcohol at this time, as it stops the detoxification process. You may get the odd day when you feel really tired several weeks into the detox – this is because your body is using all its energy to get rid of waste. Don’t worry, rest up, it will pass: it’s a good sign.
2. Make plans!
The Wood element is also connected with our mind, thinking and nerves. This element helps us get organised to do our heart’s desires – and spring is a time to start planning! When we are in the flow and getting things done we feel generous, abundant, have clarity of thought. We can allow others points of view, it’s fun to research, gather information, plan, scheme and strategise.
However if we get too calculating, or our rigid plans don’t work out, we feel frustrated, angry, jealous, envious, aggressive and bad tempered. We no longer want to share or co-operate. Mentally we lose our power of focus and become confused, impulsive and obsessive. Our rationality disappears.
When you make plans, give them space for flexibility and change. Rest the mind often (this is good for the creative juices). Be
in allowance of other people’s ideas. Think outside the square through imagination, creativity: “what else is possible?”. This brings wisdom to your plans.
3. Balance the mind!
If you mind is “over-busy”, take time to rest it by changing activities: gardening, walking, make something, learn music or dancing. The mind gets it’s “rest” when you focus on a completely different and absorbing activity. It brings about a sense of balance.
Marin Gilles (1999): Healing from Within with Chi Nei Tsang. Published by North Atlantic Books, Berkeley, California
Marin Gilles (2006): Five Elements Six Conditions: A Taoist Approach to Emotional Healing, Psychology, and Internal
Alchemy. Published by North Atlantic Books, Berkeley, California
Massage special offer
I have a special offer of $50 (reduced from $70) for a one hour massage or healing session during the month of
October. To see types of massage available or to make a booking click here
Courses coming up
Elayne Lane is an instructor of the Universal Healing Tao. She has been teaching and doing bodywork in excess of 20 years.