I am aiming to travel overseas at the end of this year, so if you have any outstanding massage vouchers please book in by the end of April. There are lots of courses on offer this year - something for everyone - so please read this email right to the end.
Beginner's Massage Courses:
I am offering two separate weekends for this course - 1/2 April or 29/30 April for full details click here.
Advanced Massage Course:
Once you have completed the beginners course you might want to learn some deeper massage techniques. The Advanced Massage Course is on the 13/14 May. Click here for information.
Crystal Healing Course:
This one day course on the 27th May is for complete beginners or people wishing to develop their intuitive/healing skills and work with crystals. Click here.
Massage for Couples:
If you wish to deepen intimacy between you and your partner through massage - this weekend is for you. I teach basic massage but there is also the opportunity to learn aspects of sensual massage, communication and skills around creating a deeper connection. Click here.
Weightloss without a Diet Course:
I have had lots of requests for my Weightloss without a Diet class so I am running it again, starting straight after Easter. The course runs for 8 weeks either Tuesday nights or Thursday mornings. For more details click here.
Chi Kung Classes restarting in May:
Tao Basic: Stretch and Smile - Tuesday mornings for 8 weeks
Tao Basic: Breathe - Thursday nights for 8 weeks
Tao of Healing Love weekend 30 June (evening) 1/2 July
For more details click here
My New Address: Massage in Nelson has moved to 55 Tasman Street, The Wood, Nelson. I have two late nights - one on Monday and the other on Wednesday. The first session is $70 and if you rebook within 30 days the next session is $55 for a one hour massage. It gets busy at this time of the year, so book a week ahead to avoid disappointment or send me a txt for a time. Gift vouchers are available too.
Do you ever wake up in the morning feeling low?
Are you always struggling with your mind to get into a positive state?
Our minds can be pretty funky places at times.... And it if occurs often enough (we feel flat every day), it can become a habit. When we feel low, everything feels bad. Our body tends to have more pain and tension, our diet deteriorates, the day at work seems harder, the verbal dialogue goes around and round, we beat ourselves up and stop being fun to be around.
The trick to changing this is to change our thinking. (After all it is the one thing we do have control over).
We all get a bit flat at times, and I am no exception. One morning I got the idea to rev up through using affirmations (this has always worked for me in the past), so I took a look on internet to find some fresh ideas. I came across a talk by Abraham Hicks on called "The Easiest Way to Start Positive Momentum". It was a great talk, and I want to summarise it for you in this blog.
Esther Hicks and Louise Hay both say that using affirmations help shift our mental state and reality, but unless we get into a positive feeling state, affirmations do not work. Let me give you an example. You own a heater. You know it gives you warmth. But it only works when you turn the power on. Likewise with affirmations, they only work when we have a strong positive emotional feeling behind them. The emotional power literally turns the affirmations on.
So if you wake up and invest emotional energy into self talk about how flat you feel, that is what you will get - a bad day. If you wake up and invest your energy is a "rev up" pep talk with positive emotional energy behind it, then your day will be much better.
The easiest way to do this is to make yourself a recording of your affirmations when you are in a good mood and play it to yourself first thing in the morning. Leave enough space between each affirmation to repeat it, and remember to get into the feeling - like you already have it. BE excited!
I have one below which you can download.
Abraham Hicks says best way to start your 'rev up talk" is with something general.
What do you appreciate right now? Think of all the things that are easy to appreciate.
Think generally: your body, your home, your comfy warm bed, food in your cupboards, a hot shower...
Then go out into the community: people at the bank, your friends, the library service, the supermarket...
Then globally: the electricity to your house, the roads...
Take a moment to appreciate the wellbeing of the people around you. People who inspire you.
You could compare yourself with all the people who live in other places, and appreciate where you live and what you are accomplishing right now
GOOD VIBES ATTRACT GOOD VIBES
When you can put a good, excited, happy, uplifting feeling into your words/appreciation, this puts power into them. Often we let our good feeling go, and slump back down to apathy. So set an alarm in your phone a couple of times a day to remind you to lift your vibe again.
Abraham Hicks says the next step is to receive what comes your way. Allow yourself to go with the flow. Let your positive vibes carry you along throughout your day. We all know how good it is to be around someone who has these vibes. You can be like that too. People sense this - they will want to help and support you.
It takes commitment to keep picking yourself up and getting into a positive vibe. But ask yourself: which mouth do you want to feed? The happy one or the sad one?
One day is not enough to break a habit, but one week can start showing you some positive results. It takes about 28 days to change a habit, and probably 3 months to have it embedded into your system Practice pays off!
If you would like a recording to use to rev up your day: click here and download it to your ipod/mp3 player.
Take a moment to listen to your thoughts about yourself.
How you feel about your body?
Your state of health?
Do you like the way you look?
Many people would say:
I am too fat, too thin, too short, dumpy, stupid.... and so it goes on.
This week I saw a three minute video about a woman who hated her body. It struck a chord with me... I realised that I quite often verbally beat myself up! I want to share this video with you - it's about a woman who chose to look differently about her body. Click here to look at this video (it is a promotional video but the message is well worth hearing).
So often when I work with people, I get a sense that they don't like their body, or the part that is hurting them. For some it is their hormonal system because they can't conceive a baby, or it makes them moody, or menopausal. For others it is their "pain in the neck" or "pain in their butt". I have noticed there is a kind of tension that sits in the body, and it appears when we go on a negative self talk rampage. Many a client will tell you that during a session I have asked them to breathe deeply and SMILE into their body. To appreciate it - after all the body still keeps working, even if we have a poor diet, bad posture, don't move enough, laugh enough, play enough.
This is the analogy I give to my clients about our self talk:
Let us pretend you work in a factory. You have been there a long time and some of the machinery is a bit unpredictable, which affects your output.
Boss A comes in. This person is always grumpy with you, telling you what is wrong, making you feel useless, picking holes in you, yelling sometimes. How do you feel? Do you shrink down? Do you dread Boss A? Would you grumble and complain outside of work? Would you even want to go to work? And if you had a good idea about how to make things better, would you tell this Boss? Probably not.
Boss B comes in. This person really likes you. They praise you for your work, despite the difficult circumstances you are working in. They tell you what they appreciate about you, admire you. How do you feel now? Stand up tall? Feel proud and appreciated? Do you look forward to showing up at work? Would you be willing to share with this Boss any of your good ideas for improvement? Yes, because they are likely to be well received.
I believe it is like this with our body. When we berate it, it shrinks, constricts and gets tense. When we love and appreciate it, it softens, relaxes, gives us feedback, and tells us what it wants.
Every cell in the body is connected. If I were to stamp hard on your toe, every part of your body would know about it, right? So it only stands to reason that when we are internally beating ourselves up, the body responds.
I have noticed that when I really care and speak highly about my body to my body, a type of new wiring happens. I get ideas how to look after it, I make different choices about my health and activities.
How do we love our bodies?:
1. Talk to it in a loving/caring manner (even if it hurts)
2. Ask it to tell you what it needs and imagine getting wired up - painful body part to the brain - so that the information/inspiration can come to you on how to help it
3. To consciously do caring things for your body... have a bath, do a relaxation exercise, take a walk, have a nourishing meal.
To download a FREE audio on the Inner Smile Visualisation click here.
Click here for my Women's Rejuvenation Chi Kung Class this Saturday.
My chi kung teacher, Gabrielle is coming to Nelson to teach 4-7 July. She has many years experience and has learnt directly from Mantak Chia - a Taoist Master living in Thailand. I want to invite you to two different events:
1. An Introductory night on Thursday 4th July (donation only) where Gabrielle will lead our Women's Chi Kung class. This is a unique opportunity to experience Chi Kung. For further details and testimonials click here
2. The Tao of Healing Love weekend course 5-7 July in Marahau. For further information click here
Here is Gabrielle’s experience of these ancient practices: “More than 30 years ago I attended my first Healing Tao workshop. I was on a spiritual path, but had so many health issues. I practiced Yoga for years, but it didn’t improve my immune system. I was looking for answers - how to move in
my life - and I didn’t expect working with my sexual energy will be the key!
I learnt the sexual energy massage as a preparation for a meditation and was amazed by the outcome.
Massaging the breasts (on top of my clothing) and the lower abdomen whilst connecting with an inner smile, changed the chemistry of my body. After the sexual energy massage came a healing meditation.
My mind was quiet effortlessly! It was easy to sit in silence and just observe what the massage had
created. 15 minutes practice per day already can shift our vitality.
I am not someone who does an exercise, because it is good for me. I do need a motivation, and this Tao
practice holds this promise. Before I started the practice, I had premenstrual symptoms and pain during the menstruation. When I learnt the practice, I continued to do it once a day for 10 - 30 minutes.
When the next cycle came, the symptoms were already much less. I was amazed from the outcome and within 3 months they disappeared completely. Minimum effort made a great result”.
This is Elayne's personal experience of the Tao of Healing Love:
“This is a system designed to cultivate my energy (chi), good health, foster self-love, and grow spiritually. It has had a huge impact upon my life, and I love to teach it! The Tao of Healing Love teaches us how to awaken and combine our sexual energy with our heart energy, and use it for health and longevity. I liked it because it was practical and I could actually experience the benefits of doing the practice. It helped me immensely in my private practice as a healer/masseuse, as well as in my personal/intimate life. The course sets out a way of working with our sexuality on our own, and then how to use the practices with another person. The self cultivation helps balance hormones, balance the sex drive (too little or too much), increases vitality, helps process emotions which come up when you fall in love and brings about deeper connection when you are with a partner. What I personally have observed since doing these practices are as follows:
1. I am more steady emotionally and less affected by other people’s emotions. The Inner Smile has helped me to love myself and puts me in touch with my body
2. My sex drive balanced out
3. I have a sexual/heart practice to use during periods of celibacy which gives me health and vitality
4. My breasts are healthier, with less pre-menstrual breast lumps. They are also more sensitive
and responsive to touch.
5. It has helped me grow spiritually by loosening blockages and teaching me through the wisdom which arises from my inner knowing
6. When I have a deep connection with a client in a massage session, I stay centered through the practice of circulating my energy in the Microcosmic Orbit
7. It has helped me open up as a healer: I am able to send more chi/energy to assist my client’s healing process
8. I am more sensitive to my clients’ emotions because I am more aware of my own through the Six
9. I have more vitality and stay well
10. I have techniques which I can use to sleep better, to quiet my mind, to release stress, to balance my hormones and clear my energy field.
Often I have wondered what Self Love is all about. Yes I like myself (depending on what my hair is doing on a particular day), I feel good when I dress up, but what really IS self love?
First I thought about what happens when I don’t love myself:
I refuse to accept or brush off a compliment
I find it hard to receive love because I don’t feel worthy of it
I feel drab and flat
My heart is closed and feels heavy
It’s hard to get going in the morning
So I thought about times when I felt self love and discovered that usually it’s when I did a loving act for myself. For example:
When I stood up for myself and did the right thing by me
I gave myself a treat
I resolved an issue
I recognised a time when I have changed a pattern to something different and patted myself on the back for choosing something better
For me the benefits of Self Love are...
Waking up feeling delicious inside
Look forward to a new day
I can let go and trust
I can roll with the punches and go with the flow
It’s easier to adjust to changes
So I know all that but how do I cultivate more self love, despite the wrinkles, a bad hair day or anything else that comes along?
Well, what I do know is that love is an ACTION. It’s no good just thinking about it or wishing for it, real love is felt when it is expressed or experienced. One of the ways I know to cultivate self love is through an ancient chi kung practice called The Inner Smile meditation. Yes smiling on the inside of your body develops self love. You can smile inside yourself anywhere, anytime and you can smile to any part of you – to each of your organs, your body parts, your skin, into your bones, your eyes, ears or hair. Or you can smile with love at a feeling – “there I go again feeling anxious, angry or sad” – just smile at it. Hearing its voice and accepting it just as it is will help you find peace again.
The trick with smiling is to do it with intent. The kind of intent I mean is this: imagine you are an employer and are visiting your hard working employees. When the employees experience your genuine smile they immediately relax, puff up their chests, feel good and smile back at you! In fact, they will probably smile for days afterwards because of this experience. This is what happens with your cells, organs, tissues, body parts or emotions. Try it, they will love it.
Another way to love yourself is to give yourself a treat, the way you would a dear friend.
Have a fragrant bath with candles, soft towels, music and wine. Go the whole way, don’t skimp on yourself.
Do something that delights you with the focus on loving yourself, walk in the moon light, swim naked, dance to inspiring music or sing.
Take a nap in the sun.
You could wear something special (I have a friend who wears fabulous dresses when she gardens).
Put new sheets on your bed, grab a hot chocolate and read great books.
Whatever you do, make sure you do it for yourself the way you like it and allow yourself to consciously enjoy it.
Smile on the inside and soon you will be smiling on the outside. We have all seen people in love who seem to glow. Well loving yourself will also give you a sparkle that is irresistible. Now when the compliments come you will be able to receive them because you already feel good.
So cut yourself some slack and smile some love into you.
Elayne Lane is an instructor of the Universal Healing Tao. She has been teaching and doing bodywork in excess of 20 years.